Listen to me..

They do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.

Have you noticed how rare they truly listen? By ‘they’ I refer to majority of our friends with whom we talk/chat. By ‘truly listen’ I mean, listening to what you say and replying after actually thinking of what you said….This might sound confusing, but just if you focus well on a serious conversation you will realize, they reply to you only to keep the chat going on or to make you feel better at the situation.


Only rarely you come across someone, who will actually talk with proper understanding and tell things that will actually make you think even later on. That’s what I call a ‘deep conversation’. And such people are the true friends, who actually makes it a priority to make time to talk to you or listen to you.

But, most of the conversations you  come across with your friends are actually based on nothing. You talk about each one’s day and happenings, make some silly jokes to show you are interested. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not telling every conversation you have with a friend should be serious/deep; but what I’m telling is, when you are talking about something serious, there must be an intention to understand not just replying.

Anyway even the simple conversations with your friends should indeed have more attention. Once you’ve ended a simple chat with someone, if you feel warm by the whole content and not just by the words of the conversation, then its worth.



2 Comments Add yours

  1. itsathought2 says:

    This is so true. It makes such a difference to both people in the conversation. And yet it is so rare.

    I wonder if it a natural thing for a human to listen entirely to another person. I have always worked in call centers. And training someone to just listen is the biggest challenge in a call center. The number of assumptions that get made in every conversation is astounding. And we don’t even know we are doing it. I’ve listened to recorded calls where two people are talking and thinking they have come to a complete understanding, but they are actually having two different conversations. They just hear what they expect to hear or maybe want to hear and then they hang up. Its eye opening.

    Hah. And now I am wondering if this reply is sort of representative of not listening in the internet age… I mean I took the conversation into a new direction. The direction my mind took when I read you post.

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    1. ManuDS says:

      True. I mean they expect to hear what they want to hear, no matter what the other says they will only understand in their level of perception if they don’t try to see through. It’s truly a challenge!

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