They do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
Have you noticed how rare they truly listen? By ‘they’ I refer to majority of our friends with whom we talk/chat. By ‘truly listen’ I mean, listening to what you say and replying after actually thinking of what you said….This might sound confusing, but just if you focus well on a serious conversation you will realize, they reply to you only to keep the chat going on or to make you feel better at the situation.
Only rarely you come across someone, who will actually talk with proper understanding and tell things that will actually make you think even later on. That’s what I call a ‘deep conversation’. And such people are the true friends, who actually makes it a priority to make time to talk to you or listen to you.
But, most of the conversations you come across with your friends are actually based on nothing. You talk about each one’s day and happenings, make some silly jokes to show you are interested. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not telling every conversation you have with a friend should be serious/deep; but what I’m telling is, when you are talking about something serious, there must be an intention to understand not just replying.
Anyway even the simple conversations with your friends should indeed have more attention. Once you’ve ended a simple chat with someone, if you feel warm by the whole content and not just by the words of the conversation, then its worth.